Asking your loved ones and closest friends to be a part of your wedding is not just about standing there and looking pretty. There are important things they need to know and understand before you ask them to be your second hand woman/man. It is and honor to be a part of the wedding, but it is also and important job to uphold and you want to make sure whoever you choose as basically the assistant captain of your team, they are able to fulfill their duties.
Maid of Honor (MOH):
The job of the MOH is to direct the bridesmaids in their roles. They are also the ones that should be helping you schedule dress fitting dates, plan your shower and bachelorette party. If you’ve got DIY projects to be done, they along with the bridesmaids should help you finish these projects. When choosing the MOH, you want to feel like you can trust them and be able to count on them when you need it the most. No two MOH positions are the same so be sure to sit down with her and discuss what it is you need help with. But if all you want is for her to stand there and look pretty because you and/or your wedding planning has everything covered, then by all means, she has the easiest job ever! So be sure that when you pick your MOH, they meet the requirements on your list.
Best Man (BM):
It may seem like the guys don’t have much to do, but in reality, they also have an important job to hold. They need to make sure that the groom gets to each location on time. They need to make sure he has everything he needs before he steps out the door. They will be the one organizing the bachelor party, helping the groom pick up his tux as well as the tux for him and the groomsmen. He is the man in charge of holding the wedding rings up until you both exchange your vows. If there is no planner in charge, he should help the MOH handle the any last payments for the vendors. He should also make sure when guests arrive, they are seated where they should be. If you decide not to rent a limo or car, the BM is your chauffeur for the day. He is the one that should drive you to wherever you need to go.
The roles for the Maid of Honor and Best Man can definitely intermingle on the day of the wedding. The best thing to do is to just sit down with them one day and discuss what their roles are when the day comes and how to properly handle each situation.
Your day should be as stress free as possible. With the help of the MOH and BM, you should have nothing to worry about! Enjoy your wedding day and have happy memories!