Many brides today keep little memories in a binder or notebook when planning their wedding. But what you don’t often see them doing is writing little memories throughout the planning process. From the moment you say “I do” to the day you walk down that aisle, you should take notes of everything thing that you’re feeling and the ideas that keep looming in your head as you plan your special day. Maybe one day, your future daughter can have the honor of being able to read your journal and see how it was like for you to plan your wedding when it comes time to plan theirs.
The journey to the alter has many trials and frustrations, laughter and exhilaration, and lots of important decisions that need to be made down the road. When you keep a planner for your wedding, you jot down notes for everything you needed to do and the choices you made from invitations to linens and colors. But writing down your feelings will make it so much more meaningful. It’ll definitely be a treasure to keep for years to come and for generations to read years from now.
Write a letter to that future daughter or daughters of yours as you are planning your wedding and tell them how you will contribute to theirs and what your hopes will be when it comes time for them to plan their own wedding. Their is no right or wrong in keeping a wedding journal. It is whatever you want to write and decorate to your heart’s desire. Memories and keepsakes mean more to anyone than any expensive gift in the world. It’s a beautiful gift to yourself and to your future daughters to come!
So why would someone need bridesmaids and groomsmen if they already have a Maid of Honor and Best Man? Traditionally, Ancient Roman law required ten witnesses for the bride and groom to be wed. The closest friends of the newly wedded couple were to dress exactly like the two who are to be married as to confuse the spirits of who was the one actually getting married. They didn’t want any vengeful spirits to harm the couple or jealous suitors to try to take the bride away from the groom. How crazy is that?! And the night before the wedding, the groom and his men would sneak into the potential bride’s home to kidnap her. They would form small armies to complete the mission and to fight off anyone that got in his way of capturing his bride-to-be. What a life that would be to live back in those days!
Now the bridesmaids and groomsmen are asked to be part of the wedding party because they are the closest to the bride and groom. They are also taking the responsibility in helping the couple in whatever is needed from them. The Maid of Honor and Best Man are to assist and delegate the duties to the rest of the party to ensure everything is done in a timely manner. They must attend all fittings, parties, and help spread the word about the parties they are attending. These parties would include the wedding shower, bridal shower, bachelorette party, and bachelor party. They help run any last minute errands that would be needed for the wedding. They also need to attend rehearsal so all instructions can be thoroughly instructed for the wedding. A bridesmaid’s job is more elaborate than a groomsmen’s job. Mainly because the bride has more tasks that need to be done than the groom. Bridesmaids and Groomsmen also need to pose for any photos that the couple and photographers would like to take. Mingling with the guests is also very important especially when they are waiting for the ceremony or reception to begin. This helps the couple more time to freshen up and prepare for the most important day of their lives. The jobs that are given to the bridesmaids and groomsmen are to make sure that the bride and the groom have a worry free wedding day. Especially if there is no wedding coordinator, the responsibility to ensure a timely wedding falls upon your wedding party.
This past weekend I had the pleasure of helping some really good friends of mine coordinate their wedding day. It was a simple wedding, yet beautiful. I think it had more meaning to me because I was connected to them. But regardless, their wedding was very magical. They had their ceremony at the Old Grapevine next to the San Gabriel Playhouse and the San Gabriel Mission. It was a historical and rustic outdoor ceremony. I loved that their ceremony took place in front of the old wine barrel which was decorated with beautiful floral arrangements. Here are some photos that I took. More professional ones to come soon!!
Credit: Traveling Tree Photography
The first look is not an old tradition passed down from generations to generations. It only started recently. Couples found that having a first look before the ceremony allowed them to see each other and be able to take photos before. I have had plenty of brides who choose this option over the traditional way of the groom seeing the bride for the first time when she walks down the aisle. There are pros and cons for having a first look but regardless, you still get to see the reaction of the groom when he sees his future wife for the first time in her beautiful wedding dress. When you have a first look, the moment is more intimate because it is just you two in a place of your choice that you get to share. When you have a good photographer, they are able to capture that moment just perfectly. What do you think about The First Look? Do you prefer to share an intimate moment with your partner or would you like to wait until the time of the ceremony to see each other for the first time? Are you someone who like to stick to the old traditions or do you like to create new ones? Let me know!