Not necessary to include into your wedding, but a brunch for some of your closest family and guests is a nice way to conclude your celebrations. Brunches are typically funded by the bride and groom and are held either at a home or restaurant. If you decide to have brunch at home, it’s more carefree and relaxed, but you’ll have to deal with the cleaning after. But a restaurant brunch allows for freedom to just eat and catch up on the previous night’s events. You don’t have to clean and you just enjoy the list couple of minutes before you depart on your honeymoon. Some hotels and restaurants provide great packages when you include the reception dinner and brunch to your deal is a great bonus to having brunch. You can invite anyone to the brunch. Some people tend to invite the guests who have come from out of town just to thank them for taking the time to come out and share in your celebrations. Of course family and close friends can be invited too. So do as you like with the brunch. Have it or don’t. It’s just a great way to say thank you to your guests and is a last hurrah to your wedding experience.
You may not think it practical now, but wait until the day of your wedding and you wish that the little ones had some other place to run around and play instead of making a lot of unnecessary noise at the reception. Children have so much energy in them that when asked to sit quietly, they will not. Nowadays, nanny and babysitting services have specific packages for weddings. They supply everything you will need to keep the children entertained. You can also hire them for both the ceremony and the reception if you feel it necessary. Not only will you have a wedding that is free of loud and rowdy children, but the parents of these children can actually enjoy the celebration of your marriage. Everyone is happy in the end. Just make sure that if you decide to hire a babysitting service that they have high ratings, are licensed and insured. You want to make sure you enjoy your day to the fullest so why not provide this great service to your guests as well!
The most effective save-the-dates are those that are brief and to the point. You don’t want to include too much information because that’s what the invitations are for. Save-the-dates are mainly just to let your guests know to hold your wedding date and to expect an invitation in the coming months ahead leading to your wedding. All you really need to include in your save-the-date are your names, the wedding date, and the general location of the wedding (like the city and state). You also want to include, “Invitation to Follow” so guests know to expect it and not wonder where the rest of the information for your wedding is.
Your want your save-the-date to be eye catching. Adding to many words to it would cause too much clutter and the letters would be too small to read. Don’t forget to include a photo of the two of you in your lovely message!
Many brides today keep little memories in a binder or notebook when planning their wedding. But what you don’t often see them doing is writing little memories throughout the planning process. From the moment you say “I do” to the day you walk down that aisle, you should take notes of everything thing that you’re feeling and the ideas that keep looming in your head as you plan your special day. Maybe one day, your future daughter can have the honor of being able to read your journal and see how it was like for you to plan your wedding when it comes time to plan theirs.
The journey to the alter has many trials and frustrations, laughter and exhilaration, and lots of important decisions that need to be made down the road. When you keep a planner for your wedding, you jot down notes for everything you needed to do and the choices you made from invitations to linens and colors. But writing down your feelings will make it so much more meaningful. It’ll definitely be a treasure to keep for years to come and for generations to read years from now.
Write a letter to that future daughter or daughters of yours as you are planning your wedding and tell them how you will contribute to theirs and what your hopes will be when it comes time for them to plan their own wedding. Their is no right or wrong in keeping a wedding journal. It is whatever you want to write and decorate to your heart’s desire. Memories and keepsakes mean more to anyone than any expensive gift in the world. It’s a beautiful gift to yourself and to your future daughters to come!
Choosing a wedding date is very crucial because you want to ensure that the date you want is available to the venue that you are choosing. And also because it is another milestone in both your lives and the date should be a memorable one. It should be made with a lot of thought and consideration.
You want to make sure that you pick a date that isn’t around the time of terrible weather season because it might impact the number of guests who will decide to attend the day of. If you’re in California or anywhere where rain is scarce, then you’re lucky to not have to worry about the rainy weather so much. But the heat may be a different story. Your guests will most likely still be in attendance but you should reconsider the date in the summertime if you have plan to have an outdoor ceremony. Your guests might not like it very much if they are stuck outside in the heat as they wait for you to walk down that aisle. But if you do decide to go with a summer wedding, make sure that you accommodate your guests with cute fans or refreshments to drink prior to the start of the wedding.
Avoiding a date around the holidays or a birthday should also be considered. You want your date to be special. When I say birthday, I specifically mean you and your significant others’ birthdays. Do you really want to celebrate a birthday and a wedding anniversary at the same time? Others might beg to differ and think it has more meaning when you celebrate a birthday on the wedding day as well. But that is a matter of preference.
So carefully consider your wedding date and make sure you avoid any milestone dates and special memories that you feel could take away the special significance of your anniversary!
As much as you want to invite every single person that has touched your life, you just can’t. One of the hardest parts about planning your wedding is figuring out who you feel should be invited to share in your special day. And we all know, the bigger the guest-list, the bigger the budget your wedding will have to be. So the best thing to do is to start writing down a list of people you actually want to invite to your wedding early on in your planning phase.
One thing you can do is once you list out all the guest you’d like to invite, you can make a note next to each name explaining how they have touched your lives and why they should be invited. People you aren’t close to or relatives you haven’t seen in ages can definitely be eliminated from the list. Co-workers you are not close to can also be eliminated. Just because you are close to some co-workers doesn’t mean you have to invite all of them just so the few can attend. I’m sure the ones who aren’t close to you will understand why they weren’t invited in the first place. Don’t feel bad for taking them off the list just because you’ll have to see them almost everyday after.
Keeping within the budget can get tough as the planning process progresses. Ensuring that you invite only people who matter to you the most will definitely help to eliminate the stress of your budget going up. It’s the easiest way to keep your budget in check and be able to spend your money on other parts of your wedding that matter to you more.
So don’t feel bad for that family member who was twice removed whom you won’t be inviting. Or that casual friend who you see on occasion at other weddings or special events. Your main focus is to ensure that you are happy with the whole outcome of your wedding. Also, don’t feel like you need to please your parents and invite the whole enchilada of a family you have and have never met in your life. Sometimes they just want to share in their child’s big day, but if they aren’t going to help with the budget, then don’t feel obligated to invite your mom’s best friends aunt to your wedding.
You’re finally engaged!! It’s now time for the fun part. Planning your big day! Okay. It may not be fun for all. It might actually be stressful. That’s why you have professionals like me to help you along the way. So it’s now time to figure out the theme of your wedding. You’re probably trying to figure out what the current trend is and how you can incorporate it into your theme. But is today’s trend really something you want to incorporate into your wedding? What if you aren’t a huge fan of the rustic theme or having metallic pieces decorate your tables? Do you feel the pressure to have the best wedding ever and the only way you think you can do that is to follow the current trend of the year? I say NO!! Don’t follow the trend. Follow your heart and what you love. In the long run, it will make you a lot happier when you see the outcome than to create a wedding theme to impress your guests. I feel that no matter how you make your wedding look, your guests will be impressed no matter what. After all, you are inviting your nearest and dearest friends and family and not wedding critics to your wedding. So forget what those trendy magazines and websites have to say about what today’s trend is. Just do you!! Do you and be happy!! That’s all that matters.
So why would someone need bridesmaids and groomsmen if they already have a Maid of Honor and Best Man? Traditionally, Ancient Roman law required ten witnesses for the bride and groom to be wed. The closest friends of the newly wedded couple were to dress exactly like the two who are to be married as to confuse the spirits of who was the one actually getting married. They didn’t want any vengeful spirits to harm the couple or jealous suitors to try to take the bride away from the groom. How crazy is that?! And the night before the wedding, the groom and his men would sneak into the potential bride’s home to kidnap her. They would form small armies to complete the mission and to fight off anyone that got in his way of capturing his bride-to-be. What a life that would be to live back in those days!
Now the bridesmaids and groomsmen are asked to be part of the wedding party because they are the closest to the bride and groom. They are also taking the responsibility in helping the couple in whatever is needed from them. The Maid of Honor and Best Man are to assist and delegate the duties to the rest of the party to ensure everything is done in a timely manner. They must attend all fittings, parties, and help spread the word about the parties they are attending. These parties would include the wedding shower, bridal shower, bachelorette party, and bachelor party. They help run any last minute errands that would be needed for the wedding. They also need to attend rehearsal so all instructions can be thoroughly instructed for the wedding. A bridesmaid’s job is more elaborate than a groomsmen’s job. Mainly because the bride has more tasks that need to be done than the groom. Bridesmaids and Groomsmen also need to pose for any photos that the couple and photographers would like to take. Mingling with the guests is also very important especially when they are waiting for the ceremony or reception to begin. This helps the couple more time to freshen up and prepare for the most important day of their lives. The jobs that are given to the bridesmaids and groomsmen are to make sure that the bride and the groom have a worry free wedding day. Especially if there is no wedding coordinator, the responsibility to ensure a timely wedding falls upon your wedding party.
Asking your loved ones and closest friends to be a part of your wedding is not just about standing there and looking pretty. There are important things they need to know and understand before you ask them to be your second hand woman/man. It is and honor to be a part of the wedding, but it is also and important job to uphold and you want to make sure whoever you choose as basically the assistant captain of your team, they are able to fulfill their duties.
Maid of Honor (MOH):
The job of the MOH is to direct the bridesmaids in their roles. They are also the ones that should be helping you schedule dress fitting dates, plan your shower and bachelorette party. If you’ve got DIY projects to be done, they along with the bridesmaids should help you finish these projects. When choosing the MOH, you want to feel like you can trust them and be able to count on them when you need it the most. No two MOH positions are the same so be sure to sit down with her and discuss what it is you need help with. But if all you want is for her to stand there and look pretty because you and/or your wedding planning has everything covered, then by all means, she has the easiest job ever! So be sure that when you pick your MOH, they meet the requirements on your list.
Best Man (BM):
It may seem like the guys don’t have much to do, but in reality, they also have an important job to hold. They need to make sure that the groom gets to each location on time. They need to make sure he has everything he needs before he steps out the door. They will be the one organizing the bachelor party, helping the groom pick up his tux as well as the tux for him and the groomsmen. He is the man in charge of holding the wedding rings up until you both exchange your vows. If there is no planner in charge, he should help the MOH handle the any last payments for the vendors. He should also make sure when guests arrive, they are seated where they should be. If you decide not to rent a limo or car, the BM is your chauffeur for the day. He is the one that should drive you to wherever you need to go.
The roles for the Maid of Honor and Best Man can definitely intermingle on the day of the wedding. The best thing to do is to just sit down with them one day and discuss what their roles are when the day comes and how to properly handle each situation.
Your day should be as stress free as possible. With the help of the MOH and BM, you should have nothing to worry about! Enjoy your wedding day and have happy memories!
This past weekend I had the pleasure of helping some really good friends of mine coordinate their wedding day. It was a simple wedding, yet beautiful. I think it had more meaning to me because I was connected to them. But regardless, their wedding was very magical. They had their ceremony at the Old Grapevine next to the San Gabriel Playhouse and the San Gabriel Mission. It was a historical and rustic outdoor ceremony. I loved that their ceremony took place in front of the old wine barrel which was decorated with beautiful floral arrangements. Here are some photos that I took. More professional ones to come soon!!